Friday, August 28, 2015


Proverbs 16:28
A dishonest man spreads strife,
and a whisperer 
separates friends.

Everybody does it...everybody
It is one of those acceptable sins
and yet it is listed right there along with things
we would consider ugly, and unacceptable behavior.

...unrighteousness, iniquity, grasping and covetous greed, 
malice, envy and jealousy, murder, strife, deceit and treachery, 
ill will and cruel ways, secret back biting and gossipers, slanderers, 
hateful to and hating God, full of insolence, arrogance and boasting, 
inventors of new forms of evil, disobedient and undutiful to parents, 
without understanding, conscienceless and faithless, 
heartless and loveless and merciless... Romans 1:29-31 (AMP)

And then there is the next verse...32
Though they are fully aware of Gods righteous decrees
that those who do such things deserve to die, 
they do not only do them themselves
but approve and applaud others who practice them.

In context, these verses are speaking to those in our world who have rejected God.
Those of us who claim to be followers of Christ would loudly proclaim
this passage is not about me....
I would proclaim
I am a follower, so I can skip past this
and yet...
I have done and felt some of the things on this list
and I know I am not alone in that

It can sneak up on a person, 
on me
sharing life with a friend 
an innocent prayer request for someone besides myself 
sharing news that is not mine to share 
sharing discontent about another 
"a whisper"......
and then, 
once the conversation is over and done
conviction sets in (or at least it should)
on where things went
where it got off track

You with me?

It takes only thoughtlessness 
to make me unqualified to represent My Lord 
to a lost and dying world.

So what am I to do?
How do I make sure I do not fall into the trap again?
How do I know when I need to talk to someone else about an issue?
And when I do share, what is the best way to speak about it?
Who is on the approved list to speak about a situation with?

I confess to my Heavenly Father when I fall
I pray for strength and awareness
and I reflect....

When I find myself being sucked in to a conversation that becomes a "whisper",
I have to decide quickly...
do I stay, do I go, do I walk away, do I respond?

When something is bothering me 
and I feel the need to speak to someone else about it,
I need to be aware ahead of time 
where the line is that I will not cross from sharing into a "whisper".

When I am hurt by another 
and my inclination is to share this with someone else, 
I need to instead focus on me and my responses, rather than
the offense, the frustration, the misunderstanding, or the personality.
And then forgive and share with no one.

As far as who I should have on my approved list 
to speak about things that are troubling me...
That too needs to be thought out ahead of time.
*My Heavenly Father is at the top of my list
*A trusted friend who has proven to give me wise counsel 
and is not inclined to "whisper" to others.

That is the end of the line. 
I do not need a group, 
just one
I do not need to find like minded people
I just need someone who will speak into the situation
with wisdom and encouragement. 
Who will pray for me and with me.
Who will not pass on my troubles to another as a prayer request.

I am a child of The Most High God
I am a sinner in need of a Savior

I thank God every day that both of those statements are true

Proverbs 26:17-22 (ESV)

17 Whoever meddles in a quarrel not his own
    is like one who takes a passing dog by the ears.
18 Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death
19 is the man who deceives his neighbor
    and says, “I am only joking!”
20 For lack of wood the fire goes out,
    and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases.
21 As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire,
    so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.
22 The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels;
    they go down into the inner parts of the body.

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