Monday, April 1, 2013

What are you wearing!?

This time of year in Arizona
the modesty crisis begins at many churches
Mine included
You see, it is warm here
and when it gets warm,
girls of all ages start wearing less and showing more.

I get it
It is hot
and that little top is soooooooo cute!

The thing is,
church is not the place
to wear a tube top,
or short shorts,
or mini skirts,
or show cleavage
or bare midsections,
or bare backs.
church is not the place
to wear anything
that brings more attention to the person
than it does to why we are at church.

I know, I am way up on my soap box...

But really girls

Why do you go to church?

I go to church to worship,
not to be distracted
by someone practically falling out of their shirt
Or someone who has to constantly pull their shirt up
or down in order not to show parts of their body.  
Or someone who can't bend over or
sit down without exposing their upper thigh region.

Okay, I know, I am getting up in some peoples grill.

Do people say that anymore?

There are those that say,
well....I think I look fine
and I want to look cute
and that is all that they are selling in the stores.....
blah blah blah...

If I say it is distracting,
they say that is not their problem
If I say that we sisters should be willing to protect our brothers in Christ,
they say that is not their responsibility

I understand it is hard sometimes to discern what to wear,
but at the end of the day it is less about that and all about God.

We are there to worship,
to learn about God and His Son.

We are not there to put on a fashion show or attract a mate.

God wants our whole heart.
God wants our motives. 
He wants our focus to be on Him.

Since that is the case,
He must want that for all His children,
so we girls need to do our part
by not getting in the way of someone else 
who is trying to focus on God
 and participate in worshiping Him when they are at church.

I know this means we have to be mindful when we dress for church...
so take another 5 minutes and think of your brothers and sisters in Christ
before you walk out the door.

1 Timothy 2:9-10

The Voice (VOICE)
9 Women, the same goes for you:
dress properly, modestly, and appropriately.
Don’t get carried away in grooming your hair
or seek beauty in glittering gold, pearls, or expensive clothes.
10 Instead, as is fitting,
let good works decorate your true beauty
and show that you are a woman who claims reverence for God.


For the last 4 months I have been meeting with the most amazing group of women.
They all come from different backgrounds and are in different seasons of their lives.
We have come together to ponder and discuss who we are as women
who are believers in Jesus Christ and who are involved in our local church.   
It has been great fun every time we have gotten together.
We have talked about anything and everything pertaining to women and "the church".
There is no way that I could possibly write down everything here.
But if you are in town, you can get a glimpse of us chatting it up
this Wednesday at Gilbert Redemption Church. 



  2. Dear ones, We live every day before the face of our Father. Every day we need to prayerfully consider whether our attire honors Him and shows respect to those around us. It is not loving to cause our brothers to sin, and their struggle is deeper than we as women will ever understand. We must cherish and honor the bodies God gave us and glorify Him by dressing them modestly.

    1. Becca,
      Thank you so much for your comment. You are spot on. I appreciate your heart on this matter. It is good to know that there are sisters out there that are willing to speak up on these issues. We are discussing this week at Women's ministry our roles and influence in the church and this is one of several topics that we will be talking about. I agree with your comments that this issue is much bigger. It would be great to hear more of your heart on this.

  3. I agree completely with Becca. This has been on my heart since reading this. As much as I whole heartedly agree with the idea of modesty and as much as I agree that this is a REAL PROBLEM in the church, this is really something that we need to consider at ALL TIMES. Not just in church. There are really very FEW times that tube tops, short shorts, cleavage, mini skirts, bare midsections, and bare backs are really appropriate if you will be out and about.

    1. Absolutely Dani, thanks so much for your comment. I really appreciate it. The reason I focused on the church in particular is because this week at Womens ministry we are discussing Women's roles and influence in the church and this subject among others are part of the topics we will be talking about. You and Becca are right in that this is more than a church problem. It would be great for us to have a larger discussion about all of this. I would love to hear your thoughts.