Monday, April 16, 2012

May I see your I.D. please?

I find it hard sometimes to explain to people what I do.
It seems that is how one is identified.
If a person works they would say, "I do this or that".
Or if they are raising a family they may say, " I stay home"
or " I work outside of the home".
If one is older they might say, " I am retired".

Identity appears to be in what we do with our time.
Is that weird?
Is it right?
I am not sure.

I find myself falling into the identity trap myself.
I will say something like, " I am a nurse".
Then I have to tell them that I am not currently working. 
Then once they find out the age of my kids the questions begin.....
So what do you do now?
How do you spend your time?

I really struggle answering the question.
I shouldn't,
but I do.
I find myself getting embarrassed to talk about the way I spend my days.
Like I have to come up with something acceptable,
that makes sense with the way the world identifies us.
I can't do it.
What I do does not make sense to the world.
But, It does make sense in God's economy.

What do I do????
I wake up every morning and leave myself open to what God
has in store for me that day.

What does that look like, you may ask?

It looks like beginning my day working on household tasks
and then dropping everything for a walk with a precious friend who needs to talk.

It looks like a lunch appointment with a stranger who becomes a friend
over a meal and a common heart ache,
who has been longing their whole life for someone
to understand what they have been through.

It looks like silence, listening to God through His word.

It looks like serving my sisters in the Lord through encouragement and teaching.

It looks like caring and honoring parents.
Being an advocate for them in their time of need.

It looks like loving my husband by spending time looking for buried treasure.

It looks like nurturing my children by being home for the days debriefing. 

It looks like caring for someone else's kids instead of hanging out at home.

What do I do????

That is the only way to explain it, really.

That does not make me extraordinary.
It is what God has called me to do. This is the way God has called me to do it.
It is not for everybody. We are all called to minister in different ways.
This is mine.

You may ask me how I know this is what God has for me....
I have peace beyond understanding
I have joy that is not tied to my performance or anyone elses
I gain energy and endurance the more I work at what He has for me
I have hope in the future, though I do not know what it holds

He orders my steps.
Psalm 37:23-24
The steps of a man are established by the Lord;
And He delights in his way.
When he falls, he shall not be hurled headlong;
Because the Lord is the One who holds his hand.

When I get worked up with my identify according to the world,
I can become "out of step" with what my God has for me.
I know, I have been there, done that.
It hurts, it makes me wander.

My Identity is in the Lord and what I do is what He asks me to do.

So, the next time you see me...
I promise not be avoid answering the question:
So what do you do?
I may also ask you the same.
So how will you answer?  

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  1. Excellent thoughts Cheryl. Thank you for sharing them!

  2. I would love to hear your further thoughts on this. It very much registered with me. Thanks for sharing via blogosphere.

    1. Feel free to contact me. This is something that I consider often due to the season that I am in. It seems there are many women that think on these things. My home email is I look forward to hearing from you.